How to Choose the Right Erotic or Tantric Workshop for You
London has a growing range of erotic and tantric workshops for gay men. Here is a practical framework for choosing the right one — what to look for, what to ask, and what to watch for.
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Reflections on tantra, embodiment, intimacy, and the spaces we create for men to explore together.
Why a Full Day Matters: The Case for Slow, Deep Erotic Immersion
Most erotic events for gay men run two to four hours. Erotic Gateway runs all day. The difference is not just logistical — it changes what is possible in the room.
Your First Tantric Workshop: What to Expect, What to Bring, and How to Prepare
Attending your first tantric workshop or erotic immersion brings questions — and nerves. Here is a straightforward guide to what actually happens at Erotic Gateway and how to arrive well.
What Does a Psychotherapist Do at an Erotic Workshop?
Erotic Gateway is co-facilitated by a trained psychotherapist. Most men are not entirely sure what that means in practice. Here is what Sam Cotton actually does during the day — and why it changes things.
Is Tantra the Same as Sex? A Plain-English Answer for Gay Men
Tantra is one of those words that gets used in many different ways. Here is a plain-English explanation of what it actually means in the context of a gay men's workshop — and how it relates to sex.
Healing Sexual Shame: Why Gay Men Deserve Spaces to Explore Without Judgement
Sexual shame is one of the most common experiences gay men bring to their erotic lives — and one of the least spoken about. Here is what it is, where it comes from, and what can shift it.
Why Gay Men Need Spaces That Aren't Clubs or Apps
Most gay social life is organised around two poles: the club and the app. A growing number of men are looking for something neither provides — and finding it in very different kinds of spaces.
What Is Consent in an Erotic Space? A Framework for Gay Men
Consent in an erotic space is more than the absence of refusal. Here is the framework Erotic Gateway uses, and why active consent changes the quality of what is possible.
5 Easy Steps to Zero Intimacy for Gay Men
Step 1. Objectify Men at Every Opportunity. Scroll through an app multiple times an hour and scrutinise sexualised photos of other men. Have a regular stream of...
What Actually Happens at a Tantric Workshop for Gay Men
If you have never attended a tantric workshop, especially one designed specifically for gay men, it is natural to wonder what you are walking into. The word tan...
The Role of Consent in Erotic Space
Consent is not a single moment. It is an ongoing, living conversation between bodies. In the context of an erotic space, this becomes even more essential. At Er...
5 Sober Gay Events in London That Go Beyond the Bar Scene
London's sober gay events scene has grown considerably. Here are five events that offer something different — connection, depth, or embodied experience — without alcohol involved.
This Is Not a Sex Club: What Actually Happens at an Erotic Workshop for Gay Men
The most common question men ask before booking is one they rarely phrase directly. Here is how a consent-led erotic workshop differs from a sex club — and what actually happens inside one.